To experience intimacy in marriage, both partners need to feel safe.

Sue Detweiler
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The expression, “To experience intimacy in marriage, both partners need to feel safe,” is a common one among marriage counselors. It expresses the idea that intimacy in a relationship depends on two factors: safety and trust. The first factor is concerned with the feeling that you are not going to be hurt by your partner. You should feel that you can be yourself and that your partner will not hurt you.

If you feel this way, then you will probably feel more comfortable expressing your true feelings and emotions. The second factor is about having confidence in your partner. You should trust him or her completely to know how you feel and what you need at any given time.

This can be difficult to achieve when you and your partner have been married for many years and may have many different experiences during those years. But if you can make it through those years and continue to grow together as a couple, then both of you will benefit from this kind of intimacy.

Source: 9 Traits Of A Life Giving Marriage: How To Build A Relationship That Lasts

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